Divorce causes several intentional and unintentional consequences. I understand the age groups affected by divorce. They are, by far, the ones that can or will suffer the most in a dissolution of marriage are generally the minor children of the marriage. I have categorized them into different age groups and the way things may appear to them: Toddlers, Pre-school, Small children, Pre-teens and Teens.  


I am a father and I understand, as a parent we desire what is best for our children and as an attorney,  I specialize in bringing the law to your corner. I am dedicated to understanding what results you want and to helping you understand what actions I can take on your behalf and what is best for you and your family.  I will work with you every step of the way to make sure that you understand the choices you are making and feel empowered to make them.  

CHILDREN AND DIVORCE- AGE CATEGORIES

Toddlers

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 Toddlers are not as affected in the early issues of divorce. Toddlers don't know what is going on and really, life can move on pretty seamlessly if you do things the right way. Time sharing between the parents is very important so the toddler can get to know both parents as much as possible and build that bond to take into the future. The toddler needs to know who the parents are. Bringing in a "replacement" at this time might be ok as long as the child is taught who their parents really are. 

Preschool (ages 3-5)

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Pre-schoolers handle things differently than toddlers. They are aware things have changed. They tend to cry out for the other parent as they have fear and guilt. They may fear that one parent leaving paves the way for the other to do so as well. They could revert back to earlier childhood behaviors. Bathroom issues may develop. Crying and acting out are also signs of stress and fear on the child. They need to be made aware that both parents still love them. They need to be told that it isn't their fault. They need to spend time with the absent parent so they can continue to build on that relationship.

Young children (ages 6-9).

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Most children this age will respond with sadness or grief. They are sad they will be without both parents.They will generally want to be with the absent parent more. They will express less anger towards the absent parent as they do not get to see them as often. They may feel they have a duty to put the family back together. Do not let them pull a role reversal. To help children at this age, reassure them constantly that mommy and daddy both still love them and both are going to help take care of them. They also can't witness arguing and fighting between the parents. This could lead to the child mimicking the bad behavior.

Pre-teens (ages 10-12)

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 This is the age in which children start to understand better. They have witnessed issues and really may hide their emotions about it. They may feel let down and may act out some. They may not want to spend time with the absent parent and may say mean things and blame that parent for the divorce. This has to be nipped in the bud quickly. Parents must encourage the children to have a relationship with the other parent. They need to let the child know that they are there for them still and continue to say good things about each other for the children's sake. Give them a bigger role in the household. Treat them like they are growing up and getting more responsible.

Teens (13-18)

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 This group has mixed issues. The younger teens may still try the blame game or treat the other parent disrespectful. The same as pre-teens apply. The older teens understand much better and are ready to move on. Older teens have friends, they have activities and automobiles. They aren't home as often and therefore may not be as affected as a younger teen. This group adjusts much better. However, they still need to be pushed to see the absent parent and continue that relationship. Teens may very well try to bargain each parent for more freedom or gifts. They will use it to their advantage. Don't give in too much. It gives them the idea they can get away with stuff. Make sure they still have their restrictions and don't give too much. Teens are going to be teens. One minute they will love you, the next they will hate you. It's about dealing with the ups and downs.

 These are the age categories I like to use. I feel they need to be broken up based on their mental and emotional development. Kids are resilient. They will adjust and move on. Some will take longer than others to assimilate to a world where the traditional family unit has ended. However, they all have friends that have single parents. They learn.   


 I am a father and I understand, as a parent we desire what is best for our children and as an attorney,  I specialize in bringing the law to your corner. I am dedicated to understanding what results you want and to helping you understand what actions I can take on your behalf and what is best for you and your family.  I will work with you every step of the way to make sure that you understand the choices you are making and feel empowered to make them.   

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